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The Barman Shot Me Down

Drinking on the dance floor is akin to a ritualistic experience where we can shed our old selves and become someone new. Mariam and Kate took that journey one boozy night in Peckham and this is how it went.

There’s no doubt that as soon as you step into the club you’re going to experience something, a beautiful moment where everything comes together.

Moves flow, you ride the vibe of your fellow clubgoers, and you don’t want it to stop. Usually, that moment is facilitated by alcohol – tequila, rum, childish cocktails or, for the demons that walk among us, vodka.

We moan about queues, not bringing a jacket and the state of the gender-neutral bathroom, but alcohol and the club atmosphere can make all of these bearable…dare we say, even enjoyable. As the drinks drop, we subconsciously become different versions of ourselves, so we took this as a catalyst to document the booze-soaked psychological shifts on a night out to see how reality changes at the club.

Mariam’s account
Shot number one: Tequila  
I arrived very early so I’m currently cowering at the corner of the club drinking the tequila I smuggled in a rainbow flask hidden in my jacket. Even though I have student finance and I live at home, I’ll have to be inebriated to pay £9 for a single shot.  
 
There are only three positions to take so far: standing by the wall, prepping in the bathroom or at the bar seeking some Dutch courage. The scene is best described by the guys' style: straight leg jeans, either a branded fleece or a plain coloured shirt and trainers, the kind you would see on a self-proclaimed “creative director.” We are in Peckham, might I add.

At this point, I’m feeling very self-aware and I’m not ready to go with the flow. The DJ is playing music that is actually danceable and I could see myself going nuts once the façade of confidence sets in. So, the goal is to get tipsy-cute and not properly pissed. We aren’t eighteen anymore so pissed and yaking is not the move.

Shot number two: Tequila again.  
I’ve moved to the bathroom again where I met some nice girls. I look into the mirror to see if I feel the buzz. I do. Why do I find myself in the bathroom? It almost acts like a purgatory between real life and whatever the hell this is. 

That said, I feel the love in Peckham tonight. Slowly, the stress of young life is dissipating, the scene starts to feel friendly, and you are ready to buy your new-found friend a shot. At this moment, inflation doesn’t seem so bad.

Getting ready to go back out there again, finally the tequila confidence is creeping its way through.

Shot number three and four: Fuck-yeah tequila.  
I’m on the dance floor trying to type into my Notes app, whilst being ping-ponged between sweaty bodies.  

By now everybody is feeling it. Bodies, bodies, bodies backdrop the DJ’s hypnotic mixes and euphoric songs. I see people truly lose themselves in the music. COVID is a thing of the past as bodies grind on each other - they will soon be praying that they are attractive outside of the club lighting.

I could try to struggle towards the front of the stage to feel the full effect of the sounds but no one would hear my excuse-mes. So I make the most of where I’m at, unsure of whether the liquid I feel on my back is sweat or someone’s vodka and Coke. Saturday nights are back.
  
This is it, I have discovered the sweat spot of a spiritual experience before self-deprecation. Nothing says ecstasy like buying three shots of tequila for yourself and your friend. I am well and truly a different person right now. Eventually, I succumb to the gaze of a man dressed like all the other Peckham bros. Hopefully he’ll ask for my Instagram handle instead of my number. 

‘Maybe I am not as socially inept as I thought,’ as I find myself engaging in
conversations with strangers.

Shot number five (drink safely): No more tequila. Time for
McDonald’s. 
With the effects of the night wearing off, it's time for another bathroom trip - a sacred space where I break away from the clubland to collect myself and check in on how I’m really feeling. Where everything outside of clubland is moving a mile a minute and there is no opportunity for a pause, the zen I feel in this messy powder room is not known anywhere else.
Kate’s account
Shot number one: Two shots of silver tequila – shock to the system, but lowkey refreshing.  
The night begins with pre-drinks at my friend's house – two shots of Captain Morgan and a swig of vodka mixed with iced tea. As an improving lightweight, I am already the slightest bit buzzed. Fast forward to the queue outside the club, shivering with excitement and anticipating strutting into the club for tonight’s motive. My coat safely stowed away in the cloak room, the next stop is the bar.
 
We arrive just in time as the party starts to get lit. My group of five take turns to pay for drinks as the alcohol gradually wears off. After our shots, we head to the middle of the packed and dance floor. My guard is up, my vision slightly blurring, but I am giggling and my body feels looser and ready to dance. After a few minutes, we decide to head to the bathroom in the stereotypical fashion of moving in a girl pack. But we backtrack as soon as Ice Spice’s In Ha Mood plays - to the dancefloor, quickly!

Shot number 2: Obviously, another tequila shot (and an accidental shot of Wray & His Nephews). 
Forget the toilet right now. Back to the bar we go. Those shots were cool but I am too sober for this place. Another shot of tequila down, I start to feel blushed and buzzed, as a typical lightweight should be. I am then handed what I think is another tequila shot by my friend – it’s in fact a shot of Wray and His Nephews. I’m so gone that don’t notice that it doesn’t come with any salt or lime.

Shot number 3: One last tequila shot – I promise!
I tell myself one more shot for the night. At this point, it’s two in the morning, the current vibe is trap music and entranced boys congregate in a body-odour-infused mosh pit. Nauseated, my friends and I decide to find a booth to chill out, which turns into a power nap for three-fifths of us. I wake up to the music still blaring in my ears and my friend filming me, then we sing along to Banking on Me by Gunna.

Once we’re all awake, it’s time for a cup of water and a loo break before we head back to Lewisham for much-needed recovery sleep. My friend’s couch, a refrigerated sandwich and more water await me in ends.
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Taking the Piss

Toilet attendants are an integral part of a night out in the UK who provide a splash of perfume and aspirin to clubgoers in a pinch, and, importantly, foster a safe space for anyone seeking refuge in the club bathroom. 

It took me a few seconds to notice the penis paraphernalia, standing upright in a clear plastic cup, an assortment of pinks, nudes, oranges, and whites.

I would not say that they featured prominently on the toilet attendant’s table of goods, but they were not hidden either. Fitting, really, seeing as I was in the toilet of a nightclub where, frankly, everything goes.  

Holding back a few giggles, I asked the toilet attendant: “What are those, Aunty?” 

“Drinking straws,” she answered. Retailing for one quid each, I would say they were a steal. And they are fun and kitschy. Aunt Blessing is a hoot. 

Welcome to the world of club bathroom workers, a regular fixture in clubs around the UK that sell a splash of deodorant and aftershave, refreshments and even flip-flops to clubgoers, and may clean as part of their job. In my experience, they may also perform emotional labour, providing a safe space for anyone seeking refuge in the club bathroom. Toilet attendants often work independently or as part of a venue’s staff. Considering that, as of April 2022, the national minimum wage is £9.50 and the living wage in London is set at £11.95, many of these workers subsist primarily on tips.  

View into club bathroom.
Aunt Blessing’s table of wares.

Aunt Blessing is a middle-aged Nigerian-born woman who now resides in London and works as a toilet attendant on the weekend at a buzzy nightclub in Brixton. I met her on a Friday night out in the city and we got to talk about her work, the means of taking care of her family and a taxing job. Statistics show that the cleaning industry in the UK employs more non-British workers than average, so I often encounter fellow Africans working in club bathrooms on my nights out.  

“It’s very cold tonight but you people tried your best to come out,” she admonished with a laugh. “I know that I am looking for money, otherwise I would be in my duvet.” Inquiring about her hours, Aunt Blessing let on that her job is manageable “for now. I make enough money just to get by. Some days are better than others. Today was very quiet,” she said, gesturing to a collection plate with a few quid.  

Aunt Blessing’s presence was warm and inviting, although I was under no illusions about the nature of our interaction as potentially disrupting her doing her job. Our conversation was interrupted several times by punters purchasing sweets and penis straws, punctuated with drunken politeness, before heading back to the dance floor. Nonetheless, Aunt Blessing let in that toilet attendants often go unseen or unacknowledged, and like many service workers, are treated like trash.  

I make enough money just to get by. Some days are better than others.

Aunt Blessing

What’s more, extended working hours in a loud environment such as a nightclub come with significant health risks. A study published in the International Journal of Noise and Health found that the average daily noise exposure of participants working 20 hours a week in a club was 92 decibels. Over time, any exposure greater than 85 decibels for eight hours can lead to permanent hearing loss.  

At the end of our chat, I asked Aunt Blessing what a night out for her looks like and I was regaled with tales of a youth well lived. “Make sure that you have fun, but you should always take care of yourself,” she shared. “There is a time for everything. Use your wisdom and keep your eyes open so that you will not fall victim.” 

A young woman walked into the bathroom, making a beeline for the table of goods. “How much for this hair tie, Aunty?” The conversation begins again. 

The Chronicles of a Loo Lady 

Inspired by my chat with Aunt Blessing, I spent just under an hour as a toilet attendant in a Manchester club. Here’s how it went… 

What do you wear to go and stand in a club bathroom? Your croppiest cropped top, of course. And a comfy pair of jeans, and sneakers.  

One Saturday night in Manchester, I decided to don my best dress and fill the shoes of a toilet attendant for 45 minutes.  I took my bathroom attendant duties very seriously, down to a pretty pink purse stocked with mini bottle of perfume, hand lotion, baby wipes, Halls Soothers and Ibuprofen. 

I wasn’t sure what to expect - after all, I was going to be standing awkwardly in a private space trying to solicit conversation from strangers. But, as ever, the camaraderie in the women’s club bathroom is unparalleled. I set up shop next to the hand dryer adjacent to the bathroom door and this is what I witnessed. 

A cacophony of voices, two besties belting U Remind Me by Usher with harmonies included. “The vocals are coming out tonight,” someone shouts. A mum in front of the mirror fixing her makeup, talking over the phone about a frozen chicken in the fridge: “I’ll be home in a few hours,” she assures the babysitter/partner.

“I spilt my drink all over my jeans,” I hear, and offer my baby wipes. A smile of appreciation. “Your bag is so cute by the way.” 

A conference about a cool top from Primark and a glance of approval at a cute outfit. The laughter of familiarity shared by strangers at the sink and the screeching of the hand dryer. I offer the two ladies drying their hands some lotion, knowingly.

“Thank you so much!” one of the ladies says. “I always forget to bring my own, then I have to walk around with ashy hands.”   

A smile, a nod, a glance of approval from across the room.  
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The Sounds

Freddie XODOS x Moody HiFi

Meet Freddie Bale, AKA DJ Freddie XODOS, founder of Moody HiFi in Peckham. He tells POWDER how he went about creating one of the vibiest nights around.  

At 23, Freddie Bale is fast becoming one of the most sought-after event organisers and DJs in South London.

Having played Milan Fashion Week, the Oxford-born DJ has an impressive CV that includes musician, producer, graphic designer, and promoter. Now living in East London and immersing himself in the creative scene with events such as Shifting Culture and Fortem International, we caught up with him to talk about his biggest event to date: the trail-blazing clubbing event, Moody HiFi.  

Tell us about XODOS. What does that mean?  

My DJ name is Freddie XODOS. That name came from when I was DJing at 16 and my DJ name was Exodus – like in the Bible. The joke was, ‘When I come on, everyone leaves,’ until I started releasing music on SoundCloud and it got a nice following.   

What influenced your love of music? 

My biggest influence was my granddad. He was always talking about blues and jazz. That was my first introduction to music, and as I got older, I started learning the guitar, drums, and piano. That’s when I got heavy into music. All my friends had their football, but I had my instruments. I mainly play jazz and funk jazz. Then I got into producing. I feel like a lot of my inspiration comes from this weird genre on SoundCloud of jazz infused with electronic stuff. Kind of like early Mura Masa, that type of vibe.  

Scenes at Moody HiFi (@moodyhifi).
Is Moody HiFi your first project?  

 My first ever project was K-FUNKZ STUDIOS when I was 17, a garage-jungle night that I started with my two best friends. When I first started DJing, I realised the promoters were making all the money, so I said to my boys, ‘Let’s start an event.’ It went really well but it died after [the first COVID-19] lockdown. I have also worked on a few other events but Moody HiFi was my first solo project.  

How did Moody HiFi come about and the vibe you were going for?  

I moved to London the day we went into the second lockdown, so that was a bit of a kick in the teeth. During the first lockdown, everyone was shook and abiding by the rules by staying at home. The second lockdown, I feel, was more relaxed though there were obviously still people who lived with people at risk and had to stay at home. I was always DJing during that lockdown, so I built my network when I was meeting people at people’s houses. By the time the lockdown was eased, I had a circle of people who all liked the same music as me, liked to party and had good vibes.  

The original idea of Moody HiFi was a radio show, for when you wake up after a heavy weekend or long week to a nice, chilled R&B and rap moment, SoundCloud edits, alternative Afrobeats and so on. I made up little logos and an album cover for this first idea but I never released it. After lockdown, I decided I wanted to start a new event, and I still liked the name and the branding and thought, ‘Let me use that.’ So, I have been growing it since then.  

DJing lies in being able to read your crowd and catering to them.

DJ Freddie XODOS
How do you decide on the setlist?  

The actual act of DJing is not that hard, mixing one song with another. I feel like the skill lies in being able to read your crowd and catering to them. I will never go into a set with a predetermined set to play, but with crates of music that are a similar vibe. I like mixing different vibes in the same crate to experiment with different things. I always start my set with a banger that everyone knows, so they can sing along and get everyone locked in. Once you have the crowd there, you can push in a certain direction and see if it’s working. If that works, keep following it and see where it goes.  

Scenes at Moody HiFi (@moodyhifi).
How would you say you inspire loyalty with your audience?   

One thing that I always do with events is make sure that I am on good terms with all the staff because one member of staff can ruin the whole night. There are a lot of events now that treat you as if you should be honoured to be there, the bouncers ‘G-checking’ everyone that comes through the door. The whole idea of Moody is to have a space where it’s not like a typical club, but like a party where everyone is there for enjoyment, to make friends and fuck around and get loose for the weekend without being judged. I feel like in London especially, there is a lot of that with a lot of clubs, where people show off and get drunk, but if anyone acts too crazy, everyone judges. I say: just be yourself, man, we’re all trying to have some fun.  

 Keeping it personal, I think, is a good thing. We hit capacity at one event and there were a lot of people who bought tickets and could not get in. I think the guest list QR code got leaked meaning that people who paid for tickets could not get in. At another event, the bouncer was not letting people in claiming that the venue was at full capacity, but he was straight up lying because it was empty inside. I pushed my set back to make sure that I was there, chatting with everyone that was outside. The least that I could do in both scenarios was go up to them and say, ‘Hey, this is my event. I’m sorry, and obviously, you’ll get a refund for not getting in’ and explain the situation. I have spoken to a few angry people but as soon as I have explained it, they are all bless about it.   

Are you happy with how Moody HiFi has worked out?  

Yeah, definitely. I never expected it to grow so quickly. In the first year, we did Milan Fashion Week twice – both of those shows sold out. One street party we had in Paris was so lit, within twenty minutes of starting, the whole road was locked off and people were climbing on cars and shit. That was lit. I have been getting recognition in the right places and speaking to certain people in the industry. It’s a nice feeling when I introduce myself to someone and they’re like, ‘Yeah, yeah, Moody HiFi, I see you.’   

The Freddie XODOS Experience (@freddiebale).
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What’s in Her Handbag?

It’s your girl T back again with another ‘What’s in her handbag?’ drop, and this time I hit up Soul Lounge in Clapham and Raffles in Chelsea to get you the goods. 

Growing up, I was always told to never look in a lady’s handbag because it’s rude and you never know what you might find.

But that’s the point, no? 

I wanted to see what random and unhinged things clubbers considered essentials for a Friday night out in London. So I hit the toilets of two different bars in south London, nosing my way into some lovely ladies’ bags, all for you guys. 

Let’s take a trip, shall we?

Soul Lounge, Clapham High Street
Contents of a handbag.

Makeup Revolution Juicy Bomb Grapefruit X Revolution Satin Kiss Lipliner in Shade TGIF: “This combination is unmatched and should not be slept on. It makes your lips pop and it’s not sticky.” 

Tobacco: “Spanish Marlboro Gold because the prices in the UK are not it!” 

Baggy and Note: “Close cousins; one cannot exist in this world without the other.” 

Apple AirPods: “To keep the vibes on the journey home.” 

Vidal Zoom Strawberry Lollipop 

Handbag contents.

Louis Vuitton X Takashi Murakami 2005 Cozy Coin Purse 

Tampax Pearl Compax: “A tampon ‘cause knowing my luck I’ll be breaking my back on the dance floor and my period will decide to appear.” 

Hash: “Skunk weed in London is full of chemicals.” 

Marlboro Tobacco 30g: [Clearly cigarettes are going out of fashion, or we are just experiencing a cost-of-living crisis.] 

Wrigley’s Extra Peppermint: “Because you’ll never know where your mouth might end up.” 

House keys: “Even though I’m 99% sure I will not be going home tonight.” 

Raffles, Chelsea

Trident: “Trident over Extra because I ain’t no a basic bitch.” 

Oyster card 

Nationwide card 

Rizla Regular Green 

ID 

Elizabeth Arden 8-Hour Lip Treatment: “This lip balm is my f*g go-to, nothing keeps my lips moist like this. Though these days I can’t use it without thinking of Prince Harry’s todger.” 

Too Faced Lip Injection Maximum Doll-Size Plumping Lip Gloss 

Handbag contents.

Real Technique Mini Bronzer and Concealer Brush

Morphe Setting Powder: “To all the girls who need oil control, this is the one!”

John Frieda Frizz Ease: “To tame those fly-aways when things get untamed on the dancefloor.”

Nars Laguna Bronzer: “My go-to bronzer. I will always be loyal to this bronzer as long as she’s loyal to me.”

Amber Leaf Tobacco 30g

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To All the Drunk Girls in the Club Bathroom I’ve Loved Before

Bestie for the night, hairstylist, relationship guru and the love of your life.
Dear drunk girl I met in the club bathroom at Peckham Audio,

The sisterhood that we created whilst exchanging Instagrams is one so strong it could never be replaced. Even though we will only DM each other to share the pictures that we took that night, clearly our temporary friendship means so much to me.

Where are you now, I wonder? 

Do you also think about how you fixing my makeup and giving me the ‘You’re a bad bitch, f*k that guy’ talk would make me believe in love again? Because I do.

Drunk girl I met in the club bathroom, the secrets that we shared I will carry to the grave, even if I don’t really remember them. Like a powder room version of Catholicism, all it took was a drunken ‘Sister, I have sinned’ for the weight to be lifted of my shoulders.

We met on Saturday night and we will never meet again, but I will always be here to aid you so that you don’t yak all over your Depop Keren Miller boots and Miss Sixty skirt. What kind of friend would I be to let you ruin an outfit as stylish and meticulously sourced as yours? 

I watched as you braved the nausea, adjusted your mini skirt, and emptied your purse on the bathroom sink as if it was your personal vanity. Numerous beauty products flooding out, a reflection of modern day consumerism before my eyes. Whatever a person could possibly need you had it in your bountiful bag. Every aesthetic problem that I didn’t know I had, you so nicely pointed out was fixed before I could even ask, the big sister vibes you exuded that night were unforgettable.

I could thank you again for the unconditional love and sisterhood that you shared that Saturday night. That night, you had a PhD in psychology, a living example that girls really can do it all. The humanitarian acts that you delivered rival that of the UN, and when people question the kindness of other women, I will simply point to you and beg them to head to the club to experience true selfless humanity.

At 1 a.m., three shots and a pre-game in, I know that I will experience the magic of sisterhood from a drunk girl in the club bathroom.