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Like father, like son- The ultimate drag duo

“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person; he believed in me.”

Dads, don’t we love them. Nothing compares to the bright mood and guidance they can bring into our life. They’re like unsung heroes. In the drag industry, the amount of support we need to flourish can’t be underestimated.  You’re thinking drag, dad and support; how? Yes, we know. Sometimes getting your dad to warm up to the idea is easier said than done. For one, we’re sure they don’t imagine spending Sunday mornings tidying makeup and dresses from the floor after what the adventure Saturday night in Soho brought. Thankfully, for Alexander or Kiara Hole, this isn’t an issue, as he carries his dads’ Favolous Flavas’ legacy of the drag queen hype that’s dominated their household since the 90s. Given their popularity in their hometown of Edinburgh, both father and son duo have been dubbed ‘Scotland’s answer to Kim K and Kris Jenner’ by locals. 

Favolous Flava has been performing drag since the 80s. Her favourite costume draws inspiration from the Scottish national colours and the St. Georges’ flag. “Back in my heyday, so through the late 80s and majority of the 90s, drag was always kept quiet in the basements
of nightclubs and bars,” she says. “The main impetus when it comes to being on stage was on vocals and exaggerated performance. That’s still the key to many contemporary drag scripts, which gives me a proud feeling.” In the early days of her drag, Favolous Flavas’ desires were monumental in bringing a high work ethic into every performance. She treated each performance as if it were her last. She highlights how competitive this field was in the 80s, underlining that it often didn’t permit any slacking. Competition for limited places was intense. “When I started, I lacked self-belief and courage. There was no formula to success. Drag had no end goal, nor commercially or
financially. For us gay citizens in Edinburgh, it was a safe haven where we could be ourselves. That’s why this passion still stays the same. It’s something we created. I also believe it was much more of a community; Instead of being in direct competition, we almost had to become pioneers for the next generation. I call it community competition rather than individual. The individual competition is more prevalent in the drag field of today.

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Kiara Hole agrees with her dad in that the 80s and 90s were much more of a competitive field, but that the generation had more of a family feel than it does today. “I remember, while growing up, I’d see him walk in at 1 a.m. with eyelashes dangling off. I thought to myself, I’ll have some of that,” she recounts. “I’m from outside London, where the drag scene isn’t in the public eye much. We almost have to force and market ourselves to be seen. I remember, back when I was 13 years old, every time after I finished school, my dad and I would have our catwalk competition in the hallway to see who the ultimate queen was,” Kiara details. “While every other kid my age played out in the streets with their friends, my dad and I would slap on contour and our mums’ worn-out dresses. And I loved every second of it,” she states. However, Kiara notes that “back then it was also so much more fun because you didn’t give a toss. Now generations have changed, and social media presence has made the drag industry become a ‘who looks and feels the best’ competition.”

To father and son, it appears to be the 80s generation who got the ball rolling to make drag into the phenomenon it’s become today. However, with every performance in those years came potential harm. Favolous Flava reminisces about her initial foray to CC Blooms, an iconic bar for drag queens situated in the heart of Edinburghs’ city centre. “The first time I stepped foot into this building, I just felt that sensation of home. I knew this place was special. No one judged me, which I found mystifying, as just twenty seconds out the door, I’d just gotten verbally harassed. As soon as I entered the two doors, it’s like the club acted as a shelter,” she recounts with glistening eyes. “The drag queens that were performing on that comedy night welcomed me with open arms. That’s what drag is about, welcoming and providing lost souls with a home and a place to be free. I would’ve loved to bring my son to experience that, but I just wanted to protect his safety. Imagine if something happened to him, it would’ve put him off drag forever.”

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Kiara concurs, “it would’ve dampened my vision and probably left me mentally scarred. I’m such a passionate advocate for drag, so if I’d seen something like that, it would’ve hurt.” In mid-thought about the transitions of generations, Kiaras’ mood shifts immediately. “I’m so much more grateful for having been raised in the right era as I know the restrictive realities my father had to endure. Being unable to extensively explore the term drag didn’t help the drag generation in my dads’ time to move in the right direction for a long time,” she explains. “My dad’s club CC Blooms, which he brought early this century, has images of drag performers from the 2nd world war era. However, when you look at images from the 1990s and mid-2000s, the clothing and makeup styles have stayed the same. That’s a half a century year gap where no improvements were made. I’m just thankful for living in a social media era in which I can capitalise from my talents of being a drag queen.”

Fast forward to today, where we have this open-minded generation, the drag industry has become extensively commercialised. It’s much more than merely impersonating a woman. Go on GiGis’ Instagram; every tagged queen has a descriptive version of themselves in the bio. Ask any of them, and you’ll find there’s no such thing as a direct drag queen. There’s always something either in between the two words or before it.  

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Business ventures within drag are something that’s on the rise. Take a glimpse at the strip in Soho; you are spoiled with choice! The investment in drag and LGBTQIA+ clubs in Edinburghs’ city centre has seen itself to be branded as a ‘mini Soho’ by the Scottish drag community. Pay Favolous Flavas’ club or CC Blooms a visit on a Wednesday night and find the Scots mixing Irn bru with gin and tonic water. Starting a political agenda will attract death stares. However, adorning yourself with a sassy wig and an exquisite dress without forgetting to add a pinch of comedy will attract a flourishing crowd.

This is a standard method drag performer Favolous Flava follows to bring out her ability. “From the beginning, drag has always had elements of political know-how,” she says. “This club itself has used this method to attract fans on a weekday. The entertainment factor will always be in the mix, but politics is what sells now. A lot of my new material pre-covid and post lockdown is politics-related. It takes the piss out of the English, Brexit and all that malarkey,” she explains. “We Scots love it because it gets under the Englishs’ skin. We’re like their annoying sibling. We love em’, really! But by taking it with a grain of salt, it’s much easier to see it from the entertainment point of view than the political one.

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This technique of implementing political thought into drag has seen the growth go all the way from performance to impersonation. This has given the artistry a whole new avenue to reach financial rewards. Kiara now uses it to her advantage in her attempt to achieve mainstream success.  “I like the impersonation side more than the performative,” she says. “Taking the mick out of another individual – I love it! I used politics to try to get the upper hand on competitors as I know us Scots prefer not taking ourselves too seriously.”

Social media is another advantage Kiara has over Flava. Go on TikTok and type in ‘drag queen’, and you’ll get 3.7 million results. Quite impressive if you ask us! Kiara appreciates the power social media has granted the drag field. However, drag and politics have merged on social media platforms, making it all the more monumental. “Apps such as TikTok have undoubtedly taken the mainstream and commercial side to another level. One I never imagined possible all them years back,” Kiara declares. “Everyone mentions TV shows such as RuPaul, but I feel like social apps have had a better influence. The most popular drag queens on the app are people in their 30s and 40s who’ve taken this trend by storm. It’s not just doing viral dances or funny skits. It’s more. Now, we see more politically aware content. It reveals that drag can also be serious and a valuable tool in fighting larger political issues, such as LGBTQIA+ rights. This generation has given sexuality and gender the middle finger, and, in my eyes, that’s the biggest thing drag has done for this generation,” she says. “When I look into the crowd and see wee people holding hands, being in love and just embracing their gayness, IN PUBLIC I emphasise, I just know it never happened back in my dads’ day. I can’t even remember a time where I was subjected to a lack of acceptance. It’s really that good. My heart is filled with content knowing how people can feel much more comfortable being themselves,” Kiara says with recognisance. 

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As this artistry has found stability on this eras’ mainstream TV, the next step is financial reward, according to this dynamic duo. The upcoming generation deserves to make this their livelihood. Favolous Flava looks forward to the first time she’ll hit the stage with her son and fellow queen Kiara Hole later this December. Selling out clubs in Soho and Shoreditch with his witty aura, her ‘little cherub’ has had quite the impact on the drag game across all four British borders. “I still get goosebumps talking about it,” she says. “I think our family home will have the same image from the night framed in every room of the house. Being on stage with someone who shares the same blood as me in a prestigious drag club in the heart of Soho will be such an emotional moment for me. Ahh, I wish I could fast forward time to the claps, the acceptance and the laughter. It’ll be the perfect performance,” Flavolous envisions. “Honestly, a father and son drag duo is like finding a needle in a haystack. If it can inspire the child and parent bond as well, it’d give me such satisfaction.”

Kiara expresses equal excitement. “My dad is so soppy, I agree. I can’t wait! When lockdowns are over, we’ll shut down the stage for sure,” she says confidently. “Make sure you tell the English to pay attention to the guidelines. I’m missing out on money, and we’ve got a whole generation to inspire here.” 

Oh, we will. Trust us on that. Keep your eyes peeled on GiGis’ Instagram; we’ll be promoting the show closer to the time.

Before we conclude, Kiara leaves us with a beautiful quote. “My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person; he believed in me.”

If you have any heart-warming stories of bonds connected to your drag journey, make sure to e-mail or DM us on Instagram.

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Picture This!

Besides having a desirable personality that makes everyone want to be your friend, another signature of being a drag artist is having an epic Instagram feed full of unapologetic looks, show-stopping make-up and trademark that could kick ass.

There’s no doubt that many of RuPauls’ Drag Race finalists have gone on to become mainstream celebrities, with fans all over the world and millions of followers online. As a result, many of these drag performers have become digital influencers in their own right, battling for copious sponsorships, gigs, and interaction with their enormous online personalities.

The number of Instagram followers a celebrity has may appear to be a minor concern for fans. However, the queens have often voiced that their fan base directly impacts their opportunities and how frequently they are hired to appear. With no further ado, here are the top five most-followed queens on Instagram.

Alaska – 1.8 Million followers

When it comes to RuPauls’ Drag Race, she placed second in season five and then became the winner of All Stars season two. Alaska is one of the franchises’ most popular stars. Since being on the programme, Alaska has recorded many songs, co-founded the Race Chaser podcast with fellow queen William, and has even participated in the first season of VH1s’ Scared Famous. 

Alaska has heaps of YouTube subscribers and thousands of monthly Spotify listeners due to her Drag Race success. With 1.8 million followers, she’s one of the most popular Drag Race participants on the platform. 

Sasha Velour – 1.8 Million followers  

Sasha Velour is one of the main reasons Drag Races’ 9th season finale has gone down in history as one of the most memorable and thrilling episodes of the whole series. Since winning the crown in 2017, Sasha has run the nightGowns concerts in New York City, which has now been turned into a Quibi docu-series. Broad City and The Bold Type were also among the series where she made appearances. 

Sasha Velour, too, is amongst the list of popular drag queens obtaining over 1.8 million followers. Her Instagram is a fantasy filled with bold colours and perfectly posed images that flaunt her originality and creativity. 

Katya – 2.3 Million followers 

Katya, Miss Congeniality of season seven and the runner up of All Stars two, is the first drag queen to reach the two million Instagram mark. Katya has been in oodles of TV episodes since she burst onto our screens in 2015. These include Love, Victor, Tales of the City and EastSiders.  

More importantly, Katya has had great success presenting World of Wonders UNHhhh, and Netflixs’ I Like To Watch, alongside her season seven sister, Trixie Mattel. Released in 2020, Trixie and Katyas’ Guide to Modern Womanhood  is the duos’ debut book.  

Adore Delano – 2.1 Million followers

During her appearance on Drag Race season six, Adore Delano earned the hearts of many fans across the globe. Despite her disappointing performance on All Stars season two, Adore is still one of the most popular Drag Race participants to have ever walked the runway. With her relatable collection of everyday photos that she posts for her fans, she’s gained 2.1 million followers. 

Only trailing a little behind Bianca Del Rio but much ahead of her drag sisters, Adore Delano has been the second most-followed queen on Instagram for a long time. However, several queens have recently seen an increase in their social following, closing the gap between Adores’ ever-increasing Instagram following. 

Bianca Del Rio – 2.5 Million followers

No other contender has ever dethroned Bianca Del Rio, the most-followed Drag Race queen of all time, who starred in season six of RuPauls’ Drag Race in 2014. Bianca has profusely participated in comedy tours and television appearances such as Hurricane Bianca and Dragged and rules supreme on all social media platforms. 

Biancas’ Instagram helps keep her fans updated on her current projects and shows she is currently working on and various comedic skits. 

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Relationship(s) with a queen

Antonio and Jan

“My favourite part of Jan doing drag is seeing how happy it makes him. And the least, well, cleaning the house after he’s finished.”

Dating a queen can mean and involve many things. For one, you’re investing yourself into someone extremely charismatic and different to what you may be used to from your past relationships. And especially, you are dealing with two characters – if it wasn’t hard getting to know someone before, try two at once! But imagine having two versions of someone you sincerely appreciate, and wholly distinct ones at that! Wouldn’t it be interesting to know what it’s like? What does a relationship with a queen, let alone living with one, look like? 

Is it the sassy, flamboyant and unpredictable queen you are with, or is it the handsome heartfelt man you fell for at the dinner table on that lovely date? Or is it, perhaps, both? 

“The main difference between living and being with someone who does drag is that the one who does is much more interesting,” says Antonio Grasso (28), from Italy. Antonio has been with Jan Sabater (27) from Spain for two and a half years, of which the past one and a half were spent living together in Munich, Germany. “Janisha Jones, Jan’s drag alter ego, also lives with us, of course,” Antonio chuckles. While Antonio works at Emporio Armani, Jan is a drag queen and a part-time waiter. However, since the pandemic, his waiting job has shifted to shifts at a Covid-19 testing laboratory instead. 

Finding out someone is involved in drag can be confusing and uncomfortable, just as it can be fun and refreshing. It really depends on the person you’re dealing with. “For me, it was absolutely okay; I loved drag from the first moment,” Antonio says. 

It is also quite ambitious to be the one to break the news in fear of unacceptance and judgement. “I’ve dated other guys before and gotten a rejection when the news was out in the open,” Jan says. 

Antonio and Jan’s very first encounter almost gave it away. “I was working at Tezenis, a lingerie store, and Jan came in with his mother to buy some tights for Janisha. I remember, he was so ashamed, he didn’t even look into my eyes. Then, two-three months later, we wound up in the same club and ended up dancing all night,” Antonio says. “I had no idea he was a drag queen until our first date when he told me about Janisha and explained who she was. I then put the pieces together with the tights incident.”

Antonio

The reaction and opinion are essential if one decides to go down a serious road with someone. You need to accept the person and love them for all they are. “As I said, people did reject me when they found out I did drag, Jan says, but through these experiences, I stopped being nervous and learned that if the guy in question isn’t accepting, then he isn’t worth it. He’s just not the one.” And luckily enough for Jan, Antonio was more than okay with it.

One’s family and friends’ reaction is also important when breaking the news as you want them to accept and love your partner the way you do. “My parents don’t have all that much to say about it, but they’re okay with it, Antonio says. Since they live in Italy, they haven’t had the opportunity to see Janisha perform yet. Still, I know that when they come to Germany, they’d love a performance.” However, with different generations, values and cultures, not everyone is so lucky and receives support.

“Drag isn’t my passion, but I love it nonetheless. It’s so much fun to attend drag shows, and I love watching Jan perform because it’s fun. And above all, he’s happy,” Antonio says. Antonio and Jan even seem to have great teamwork going on, which numerous other relationships lack. “I am actually quite involved in drag life,” Antonio says, I love to help Janisha with the dresses and do consider myself as somewhat her stylist! I always attend her shows, and I love Janisha’s friends Pasta Parisa and Dean Deville.” 

Antonio even went a step further and tried going up in drag, “but only because it was lockdown and Jan was bored,” he says, “he wanted to put some makeup on me, and it was exhausting. Lashes are annoying! But it was fun, so I’d consider doing it again.”

Antonio and Jan

Of course, differences in hobbies and interests can also call for trouble, especially with a practice as explicit such as drag. “Sometimes we fight because of Janisha, Antonio says, especially if there’s a mess in the apartment with piles of clothes and makeup all over the floor growing like stalagmites. Sometimes if he has a lot of work, he’s always tired, and that makes me a bit sad because we don’t spend a lot of time together.” 

At the beginning of their relationship, Antonio says there was a lot of jealousy, “he was always flirting with other guys as Janisha. But also, as Jan. He works in a Gay bar and to get more tips, he flirts with guys. It cost me quite some time to accept and finally understand it.” While these issues can seem exclusive to drag at first, they really do manifest in all relationships. But again, a difference in hobbies or interests aren’t always so bad. “Antonio was actually a ballet dancer once, so I’ve learned a lot from him,” Jan says. “He always comes to my shows, analyses them from head to toe and tells me what I can improve and do differently.” Support and encouragement are indispensable in partnership, whether it be the smaller things or just generally. “I feel very supported by Antonio, Jan says, yes, I’ve been in longer relationships than with him, but none of them were even half as good as this one. He’s like my coach, and we learn so much from each other.”

An interesting aspect in regards to dating a king or queen is that one of treatment. There’s a widespread assumption that dating queens may be strenuous at times and that when up in drag, a whole other personality manifests itself, therefore changing the dynamic of the relationship entirely. Is that really the case? Well, Jan describes his relationship with Antonio as harmonious, “if I cook, he’ll clean the kitchen,” Jan says. “We aren’t all about romance, nor do we roast each other excessively. We take care of each other. However, when Janisha comes into being, well, a lot of roasting goes on. Janisha is a bitch.”

It must be interesting to get to know two versions of your partner; you may even have a different relationship with each.

“Janisha is arrogant and bossy while Jan is quieter and chiller,” Antonio says. “I get along with Janisha, respectively, if she’s not under stress. Nobody wants to see Janisha under stress. She can be aggressive and very sassy, and sometimes we also get into arguments because of it.” On the other side, Jan perceives Janisha’s change of attitude towards Antonio not to be too drastic but does admit that it happens occasionally. “Janisha can be a big diva at times, and I might end up treating Antonio differently, but I try not to do it,” he says.

Another concern may be the aspect of appearance change and attraction towards one’s partner. You may hear Drag Race’s Season five winner Jinkx Monsoon’s words echoing voice now, saying, “I didn’t come out of the closet to date a boy who dresses like a girl.” However, as a gay man, Antonio doesn’t find it bothersome. “I actually find Janisha quite attractive, he says, but I think it must come from the fact that I know that Jan is hiding underneath all of those makeup layers.”

Being in a relationship with a queen is one thing, living with one, a whole other. Antonio and Jan moved into a new 100-square meter flat in February this year.

They share a bedroom, a big living room and an attic with a workroom. As we know, girls mostly have a lot of clothes and cosmetics. And when in a getting-ready crisis, these may end up everywhere. A drag queen, too, has an abundance of items; no need for a reminder.

So, what does the dynamic living with one look like?

“Since Antonio and I have the same size, we share our clothes. That’s why we have one closet together, and Janisha her own,” Jan says. However, it wasn’t always like this. Back when they lived in their old flat, Jan explains that Janisha also had to share a closet with them and that that was a little bit annoying and, at times, a catastrophic mess. “We are fortunate we found this fabulous new flat, Jan says, now everyone has their space.”

But with queens being as extravagant and expressive as they are, it can’t be too easy to keep everything in order, no? “Everything that has to do with Janisha stays in her own space,” Antonio says. “Yes, the bathroom is something else; all of the makeup is in there, and trust me, there’s a lot of it. Sometimes it looks like a tornado has passed through the whole flat. And that especially if Janisha’s been drinking before,” Antonio says.

So, as we can see, a relationship really doesn’t seem to be all that more complicated with a queen than with someone else, or at least not in the way one may assume. “We understand each other,” they express. “Antonio understands what Janisha means to me and also understands the art of Drag,” Jan adds. From this view, it seems to be a very supportive, fruitful, intense and exciting dynamic with lots of adventure. “I’ve learned many things by being with Jan, but also especially from Janisha,” says Antonio. “I don’t have to care so much about what people have to say or think. I’ve learned to care more about myself, to have fun and do the things I love.” In any case, life lessons are taken from all experiences. “I’ve also learned that defending your partner in this new way is equally important. I almost got into a fight with a guy once who was not nice to Janisha and talked bullshit about her,” Antonio says. 

So really, is a relationship with a queen as different as one imagines it to be? “Our relationship is fun, crazy, strong and intense,” Antonio says. “Yes, it’s exhausting, but it never gets boring. I have Jan and Janisha, and I know I’m going to stay here for a long time.” 

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Ivy Lickens: “Gender stereotypes are just that, stereotypes. They don’t encompass everyone.”

Ivy Lickens

The story of a bio-queen who reveals the influence that both drag and her persona Ivy Lickens have had on her life and development. Who knew embracing your femininity could be so empowering? Meet law student Scarlett Blue (21), from Serbia. 

“All my life, I was a very insecure kid. Growing up, I felt uncomfortable about my male-like behaviour and wondered if I was just an odd kinda girl. I did have that emo-alternative style, but all the others girls around me wore dresses and braided their hair. I was the weird girl, and it weighed on me. That is, up until I discovered drag in 2016. 

By pure accident, actually. I was scrolling on Tumblr and saw a GIF of Khloe Kardashian as a judge on the show RuPauls’ drag race and was really amused. Me being my inquisitive self, of course, needed to see what the show was about. It just seemed so funny. And then I found it, and guess what? No one saw me for days. I inhaled the show like it was air. I became absolutely hooked. “What an amazing world of fantasy, of being yourself, but the fantasy version of yourself!” I kept thinking. At the end of that marathon, I felt renewed and like I had a new outlook on life. And I actually did. From then on, I embraced my individuality more than before and tried to care less about what others thought. 

Ivy Lickens

It also pushed me to try new things, such as exploring different sides of myself. I started wearing whatever hairstyle I wanted, colouring my hair in electric blue, going crazy with makeup, meeting new people and exploring new horizons. Each and every one of these things brought me something. And even if it did take a second, it also did my dear drag alter ego, Ivy Lickens. Ivy is a woman in an identity crisis. She is strong, but she is weak; she is a badass and a softie, a lustful succubus and a hopeless romantic. She is everything a woman is and everything a woman is not. She’s an uncensored print of who I am, what I’m feeling and what I want to express. Her entire appearance reflects those things each time I perform, and I love that. I’m free to experiment with different looks every time.

My first appearance as Ivy Lickens was probably in 2018 in Serbia. My fabulous drag mother, the illustrious Dajana Ho, asked me if I wanted to participate in a show about baby drag queens. Dajana Ho is one of the first queens I ever saw perform and the man behind the character Drazen, who grew to be a close friend of mine. Through our conversations about social issues, he decided women should also have a platform to perform drag. This is what gave me the courage to jumpstart Ivy Lickens. Dajana is a complicated woman, full of demons and theatricality showcased by her many talents on and off stage. A true voice of the people and an artist to the fullest extent.

The main difference between a drag queen and a bio queen is gender. If we just go with the flow, let’s say that drag queens are males, men dressed up in drag, and bio queens, are biological women who take on a persona of drag. Ultimately, they are the same: you have exaggerated makeup and have the performance aspect. As a lover of makeup and drag aside, I jumped at the opportunity to participate because I actually find it crucial to hear female voices in a world where you’re impersonating them. For some people, that’s a subject that’s highly up for debate. Still, I think everybody should be allowed to do drag, that is especially trans people. They have been very discriminated in that world. 

I have also encountered some resistance as a bio-queen. People tell me that I’m not a real queen and should leave performances to gay men expressing themselves. I found this ironic since, in their view, it’s an art form impersonating women that should exclude a bisexual woman expressing her view of femininity in a world where that question is contested daily. Yet, this didn’t stop me from performing, and I luckily had a fantastic drag family that never excluded me. I, too, think of it as an art form: it’s not who you are; it’s what you do. And therefore, nobody should be discriminated against in the world of drag.

Ivy Lickens performing

But anyways, Ivy Lickens, whose name actually came from a complete joke. As a kid, I always wanted to have the nickname Ivy because of the plant poison ivy. Of course, it never stuck as everyone refused to call me that. I was also inspired by Ivy Winters, a queen on RuPauls’ show whose character and entire aesthetic I was very fond of. She’s really more of an honest and developed version of me. Well, an exaggerated one, which I achieve aesthetically by taking the makeup I do daily and pushing it to the extreme with more prominent brows, lips, eyeliner, and eyeshadow. Ivys’ style is not set in stone, and that’s what I love about her. She’s unpredictable and incessantly fabulous. I also wanted to play on Winters and lickens, because lesbians lick.

What I like to do with my drag, which I regrettably don’t do as often anymore due to time constraints with law school, and the elephant in the room of a global pandemic, is I embody different characters. I like to play with the different facets of femininity. For example, my first track performance focused on that boss bitch vibe. I had just gotten broken up with, so, coming out of a four year-long relationship, I was determined to make myself feel like I was on top of my game. I lip-synched to a variety of artists in that performance. I incorporated the theme song of the show Lucifer as an introduction, included Fergalicious by Fergie because, of course, I had to, and ended with reference to the elimination of BenDeLaCreme, which was a self-elimination. Instead of eliminating a bottom queen as the winner, BenDeLa used white-out to eliminate herself, as she could no longer take the pressure of the competition and eliminating her fellow friends. Following that, I thought it would be a fun way to finish my almost 10-minute-long set instead of just walking off at the end of the song.

 I remember feeling invigorated after my premiere as if I’d been reborn. There was a new part of me that I had to explore. So, it only made sense that I chose these breakup-revenge songs where the woman was stronger coming out of the relationship. The more I got into the drag performance scene, the more I delved into my creative side. There was a phase during which I was keen on taking after Disney characters. I remember doing a nostalgia show where I brought back the Suite Life of Zack and CodyHannah Montana, and That’s So Raven. I also did one where I took the Divas of the 80s, the powerful women with a hint of masculinity in them with their leather jackets. One of my favourite performances was when I integrated female vulnerability. I progressively took my makeup and lashes off throughout the show. I wanted to offer insight into what’s underneath and how a woman can be broken down. I remember that silence, and those eyes, while I wiped myself of all the makeup. And the cheers when I collapsed and the song finished. Although I got an extensive amount of compliments afterwards, I think only a few people understood that the performance was meant to show vulnerability and the relationship mask falling off. I believe many mistook it instead as sheer insanity linked to heartbreak.

Ivy Lickens performing

I really do try to embody different aspects of females and femininity in every single one of my performances. That is because in real life, even though I have a lot of makeup on, or “my mug is beat”, as we like to say in the community, I am a very male energy-oriented person. I do behave myself in a stereotypically male way. So, I enjoy embracing that little femininity that I don’t get to otherwise. Hindsight, drag has taught me that every single morning, whether you’re an actual drag queen or not, you are putting on a drag persona. Not everyone in your life gets to see how you are at home. Take makeup, for example. I began to see makeup as a means of creative expression, where through the colours or style I choose, I’d communicate how and what I’m feeling that day. When I got comfortable doing that and people around me grew accustomed to the striking, colourful makeup, that’s when I really started seeing how I asserted myself. I grew into a version of myself that didn’t fear the repercussions of what people said about me because I realised it just didn’t matter at the end of the day. I even have a tattoo on my thigh that says, “We’re all born naked and the rest is drag,” a quote from RuPaul which I love to look at because it reminds me that it’s not only on stage that we play a character and a persona. We all do it subconsciously daily. I think that if we all just dropped the mask and were to be whoever we are, even under the guise of three tons of makeup, chains or heels, we still are an aspect of ourselves. One that we are maybe too scared to show off because we fear judgement. 

RuPauls’ Season Six winner Bianca Del Rio always says, “Not today Satan.” Every time I encounter a difficult situation, I say it aloud. With the exception, of course, when I’m in class. Imagine screaming that out while talking about criminal law surrounded by other law students. Anywhere outside of that scenario, you’ll find me chanting that tagline which comes from the feeling of “this person is testing me, this person wants to see me in a mug shot; this is not going to happen, you’re not going to influence my vibe. Not today, Satan, be gone.” It does sound really dumb when you’re having a casual conversation with somebody, and then out of nowhere, you look at them and say something like “I’m a fucking Libra, Hiii”, BUT it does make people laugh. I enjoy making people smile or happier, even if it is out of sheer confusion.

Regardless of whether you are part of the community itself, just a spectator, or simply find it interesting or fascinating, there’s one message that every human can take from this. And that is, as RuPaul said, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?” And I’ve got all of the Kings and Queens to thank for that.”

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Doukissa: “After I had finished a very tough military service in the navy at age 25, I decided that I’d never be repressed again.”

From Athens and Mykonos’ cabarets, the Greek drag scene’s diva shares her story, from serving the navy to producing and presenting the very first Drag Beauty Pageant in Greece. Meet Doukissa, the 30-year-old duchess of drag from Crete. 

“When I was a kid, I used to dress up as a woman for the Greek Carnival. My sister would do my make-up, and my mother would lend me her most extravagant dresses from the 80s. When I was 18, I moved from Chania, Crete to Athens to study Public Administration at Panteion University. From a young age, I was a huge fan of Takis Zacharatos, a Greek entertainer who impersonates different public personas. Once I moved to Athens, I went to see one of his shows. With every other drag show that I would attend, the more I fell in love with drag. 

Becoming a queen myself was a decision I made when I finished my military service at 25. During my time as a soldier, I was oppressed, and when I left the navy, I told myself that I wouldn’t ever engage in anything that represses me again. I decided to study interior design and created my very own drag queen persona. In 2015, a friend who used to organise events came up to me one day and asked me to perform a drag show for one of her events at a gay club in Athens. A year later, in March 2016, I chose to pursue drag professionally as Doukissa. Five years have gone by, and I haven’t looked back once! 

I adopted the name Doukissa due to its double functionality; it’s both a name and a title. In Greek, it means duchess. Doukissa is a comedy and pageant drag queen who loves to interact with the audience. I love performing Christina Aguilera and Greek songs, and pop-folk songs of Angela Dimitriou, known as the Lady of Greek folk music, a diva indeed. From make-up styling to the concepts and choreographies, it’s all part of my vision. Some of my drag clothes are actually made by tailors who draw inspiration from my sketches. I also have store-bought dresses, which I personalise to fit Doukissa’s style. For the most part, my drag persona is the same person as me, George. George is social and flirty, Doukissa is super social and extra flirty. Whatever I am, Doukissa is too. But to a superlative degree.

When I told my loved ones that I wanted to become a drag queen, they were surprised at first due to my stereotypical “straight” look. While they’d never expected me to want to do something this feminine, they are very supportive. My parents’ only concern was whether drag has a stable income and how long it can last. Other than that, they were excited about my drag journey. They came and watched one of my shows in Chania, Crete and my mother gave me all her fancy dresses that I used to wear as a kid. In my personal life, the reactions have varied. I’ve met people who have felt bothered that I’m a drag queen, and I’ve met people who were excited to find out what I do and asked insightful questions. I have a pretty big fan club, which encourages me to keep being the diva duchess I am. I’ve made sure that the people around me aren’t toxic, so I’ve never had anyone question or made me question my decisions. 

Ever since we’ve been in lockdown, I’ve been practising drag on social media. I collaborate with other queens and interact virtually with my fans as much as possible. I’ve also been organising the very first beauty pageant for drag queens in Greece. “Miss Hellas Drag Pageant” will take place on the 11th of June 2021 and I will be the event’s host. One of the judges will be Lenn Ryberg, one of the first to bring the drag scene to Greece, doing shows in Mykonos back in 1982. I’m very excited and proud of this project. I am trying to promote drag as much as possible in my home country, one of my goals being to make the drag pageant an annual institution in Greece. 

Drag is literally everything to me. It’s magic, it’s art, and it’s expression. I’m one of those people who live for drag. Although it takes me an hour to do my make-up, it really feels like five minutes. I enjoy it so much, and I honestly get lost in the process. I get nervous when waiting to perform because I only serve the best even though I’ve been doing this for years. But once I hear my song start, it all goes away, and there I am doing my thing! My favourite performance was probably during Thessaloniki Pride in 2019. I got on stage, and ten thousand people were singing along with me – the feeling I had is unforgettable. 

One of the difficulties of this job is the lack of dressing rooms for drag queens at clubs. I’ve often had to get dressed at my house and ride my motorbike dressed up to get to the venue. Having my personal space is definitely a challenge for me. Some clubs don’t even have a stage, and you have no other choice than having to perform in between people or in a small area which limits you, especially in long-ass heels. But at most of the venues I’ve performed, I communicated with the owner and found solutions. 

Like in many other jobs, when you first start, you are poorly paid. The money is little, to even non-existent sometimes. It takes time to build your personal brand and raise the standards. Having a fair salary is a problem that many artists face, as they are often neglected by the government. 

During this pandemic, things have been even harder financially for creatives. Being an artist who cannot work because of Covid, I received a sum of money from the Greek government. But this rule only applies to those who have a contract, and freelancers, unfortunately, are on their own. Even though it’s going to be hard when things go back to normal, it’s crucial for all drag queens to keep the same fee and not lower it; otherwise, we all risk being exploited. The pandemic has already made the prices drop, to the point where they don’t even cover the basic expenses. Hospitality and Entertainment have been damaged the most by this pandemic, and consequently, so have drag queens. 

Greece has improved in terms of LGTBQIA+ acceptance, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t room for progress. Thankfully I’ve never experienced any verbal or physical abuse for being a drag queen, and I walk around dressed in drag a lot. I don’t know if that is because I don’t take bullshit from anyone or if I’ve just been lucky. In terms of drag, people seem to enjoy the performances and acknowledge it for what it is, a form of art. More and more people have found the courage to pursue drag, and it’s a beautiful thing to see.”

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Morganaclair: “Girl…I look beautiful, perfect, I am drag.”

On the verge of almost giving up on drag to overcoming her battles and embracing her scars. Meet the extravagant Morganaclair, a small-town boy from Brazil with dreams larger than life. 

“Sometimes I stop to think about how much I have been through for my age and it seems unreal. First and foremost, my name is Sharon. I’m 20 years old. Yes, a baby, right? I’m a typical countryside boy from Espiríto Santo, Brazil, who grew up in a small city called São Roque do Canaã. I went through all the struggles and difficulties that most gay teenagers go through in school and society. I was bullied, beat up by girls and boys, was left out of football classes during PE, and when I did play, the boys would do everything possible to hurt me. I’ve had my head put inside the toilet, clothes ripped; really anything you can imagine has happened to me during school. 

I didn’t have a father figure present for a significant time in my life, so I grew up with my mother and stepfather. I didn’t get along with my stepfather, so when my mother left for London, I went my own way too. I moved in with my friend Alexandre, who was the fuse to the start of my drag queen journey. The small town we lived in was extremely conservative; everyone was very narrow and closed-minded. We were the only openly gay boys in the city, and I think that Moraganaclair came to me as a refuge. For me to find myself as a person. As gay Sharon, people thought I’d have that gay boy attitude. The one where I’d repress myself and when you put yourself in a place that others put you in, you give them the power to do whatever they’d like. Whereas when I came out as a drag queen, it was written all over my face: “yes I am gay and I’m not ashamed of it,” then the oppressor feels repressed to do anything to you. When I started with Morganaclair, I thought, “Wow, this takes me out of that dark place that I feel people put me in and brings me back to who I am.”

It all started when I was 14 years old and Alexandre introduced me to RuPaul’s Drag Race, it was all new to me; I had never heard of drag, nor ever seen a king or queen. As we started watching the show together, something new awoke inside me. I’ve always loved makeup. I must’ve come out of the crib with a makeup brush and when I started watching RuPaul, I thought, “I like this, I think this is what I want to do.” So, I borrowed a wig from my grandmother, got some “bathroom makeup” and did a whole makeup look; I looked a mess, but I thought I was fabulous. I took a photo of myself and sent it to my friend saying, “Girl… I look beautiful, perfect, I am drag.”

Then came my drag’s name, and the process was long. Alexandre and I thought of so many names; Paloma, Tiffany, Princess, Patricia… but I was like, sis, these are not it. Then I remembered this cartoon that I used to watch as a kid called Castelo Ra-Tim-Bum, where the witch’s name was Morgana. She was fab. But we still needed more, something that would fit with Morgana. And there we were, one day, two gays walking around the mall looking at store names that would match, and we found Clair. Morganaclair it was. After the name, came the construction of my identity. I always try to portray the woman figure as closely as possible. I try to bring a more feminine and delicate woman and sometimes a mulherão, you know, that Brazilian woman, who’s all empowered. 

Once that was all set, I started performing in school when I was 15. This was my time to shine. When the big day arrived, I looked ugly as hell but felt fantastic. It was incredible because I received a very unexpected reaction from people. After all, Sharon as a gay boy, he was rejected in school, no one respected him. Then people saw me in drag… I remember going down the stairs in my school building and when everyone saw me, they were like, “wooowww” and everyone started screaming. I really hadn’t expected this, and it gassed me up so much. I knew I needed to feel that again. I wanted to, and I would. After that, everyone talked about me; I was the centre of attention. That is why I say that Morganaclair brought me comfort; it was through her that people got to know me better.

Morganaclair’s first time performing

Although drag was a gateway for me, I have also suffered a lot because of it. I’ve been mistaken as a transgender boy; on the streets, people would stop to ask me how much the program cost. I felt this lack of acceptance in relation to everything, employment, social inclusion, even my family wasn’t accepting of me, only my mother because the rest didn’t take me seriously; they thought that being gay was alright but drag was too much. But eventually I said fuck it, they weren’t the ones who raised me anyways. 

Despite everything, I didn’t give up. This was primarily because of my mum. She was very supportive, both when I came out as gay and as a drag queen. I’ll never forget the moment when I came out. I was hysterically crying on my bed and my mum looked at me and said, “You will never stop being my son, not because of this or anything else, so don’t worry and go wash the dishes.” It was very gratifying because I wasn’t expecting this from her. I think that my persistence must stem from how tough she is. 

Another key person in my journey was Alexandre; my mum was the key, and he was the lock. He was already openly gay when I met him in school, so I had him as a point of reference. We formed a bond, a friendship, we had a romance for some time, broke up, were enemies, lovers again, best friends and now brothers. He has helped me with everything. I used to watch how he’d live his life, how he’d behave, how he’d walk, and I just admired him so much. He was and continues to be a significant person in all aspects of my life. He was the first person I came out to, he was my drag mum, the one who put the wig on my head, gave me my name, his home for me to get ready… I have so much to thank him for.

In these five years, I did take a break from drag when I moved to the land of Pão de Queijo (cheese balls), Minas Gerais. My mental health wasn’t good; I had just gotten out of a relationship and started to get depressed. I even started asking myself whether drag was worth all the worries. It wasn’t until I moved to London two years ago that I got back into doing it. I believe that if I hadn’t moved here, I don’t think I would’ve ever gone back to doing drag. And it’s funny, I didn’t know anything about this place, nor the language or the people. Still, I noticed how differently people are treated here. Regardless of their religion, gender, ethnicity, there’s a lot more acceptance. So, I bought my first wig here, and I knew I had to go back to drag. This is my world, this is what I like to do, this is Sharon. 

Now, I’m doing drag more as a hobby really, I don’t have performances as I did in Brazil. When I moved to London, my idea was to show the city my drag but due to the pandemic, I had a change in plans. I plan on doing a degree in design, or artistic makeup, but for now, I’m just a “bathroom drag” with her little stool, mirror and makeup. My main goal with drag though, would be to make a living out of it and become famous and recognised for my work. My ultimate dream is to have my TV show called ‘Good Morning with Morgana’. It can be for five minutes on SBT TV, it doesn’t matter, it would make me the happiest drag. Doing what, I don’t know, but I want my own show. 

If you’re thinking about starting drag, I would tell you to never lose faith in yourself. You’re going to go through many things that will make you want to give up but if you’re faithful and confident in your work, then I believe you can go very far. It’s about determination and willpower. If you’re thinking about doing it, do it, it will be the best thing you’ll ever do. It’s a choice you make that can change your life and who you are entirely. It transformed me as Sharon, and I know it can have the same effect on you as well.”

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Tammie Brown Exposed: A set of rapid-fire questions

Many queens have walked the stage of RuPaul’s Drag Race, but few have made such a lasting impression as the iconic Tammie Brown during the USA inaugural season one in 2009, and later in All Stars. Considered by many as the original comedy queen, she is known for her eccentric personality, cheeky remarks and on-the-spot humour which never flops. Remember the time she called out RuPaul for not walking children in nature? I mean, how could you ever forget.

Beyond cracking jokes, Tammie is very active on social media giving a glimpse into her life through the ‘Tales with Tammie Brown’ series and if humour is not your thing, she also gives great cooking tips on her stories. More than that, yes, there’s more, she is a singer/songwriter known for her most popular album, Schubert’ and an environmental and social-justice activist vocal about Indigenous rights of communities worldwide, as well as deforestation with a focus on boycotting palm oil and saving endangered animals- Tammie Brown is a queen with a cause.

I have had the pleasure of talking to Tammie over message and well, enough blabbing, the time you’ve been waiting for has arrived, get to know some facts about Tammie you may have not known of in this set of rapid-fire questions with a special focus on her love for Mother Earth.

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Nicole Nasty: “My drag persona is everything I never dared to be: everything that I was afraid to be.”

It started as a hobby, became a career and ended as a life-changer — the LGTBQIA+ activist talks all things life and drag. Meet Nicole Nasty, a make-up artist, hairstylist and the nastiest queen of the Greek drag scene.

“Before I got introduced to drag, I wasn’t familiar with it at all. All I was, was a hairdresser and a make-up artist. I was introduced to drag through RuPaul’s drag race, which a friend suggested I watch. After a year of watching the show, I learned so much about drag and its history. So much so, I got started professionally as Nicole Nasty in 2018. The art of drag really intrigued me because it combines a range of arts I feel passionate about, including hairstyling, make-up, dancing, and acting.

Drag has helped me a lot personally and professionally. And Nicole Nasty has definitely helped Nikolas in every aspect. Nikolas is a more reticent person, while Nicole Nasty is more social. She’s an extrovert, perhaps something Nikolas wishes he could be. Nevertheless, they have much in common. Both of them are feminists and LGTBQIA+ activists. Nicole Nasty is comic, sexy and very creative. Her style tends towards pop, youthful, sexy and nasty, (obviously?!), as you can tell by the name! Nikolas chooses self-expression through art, as Nicole Nasty on stage, because it’s easier for her to be who she wants to that way.

My friends were really excited and showed a lot of encouragement when I told them that I would become a drag queen. My family has been very supportive as well. I would consider myself lucky to have such understanding parents, even though it should be a norm for every family. My parents were already familiar with drag culture through a Greek entertainer, Takis Zacharatos, an impersonator of different famous personas. My mother is my number one fan; she has seen me perform many times and even lent me dresses when I first started as a drag queen. My father would also attend my shows if I didn’t perform so late at night. However, he still watches the videos afterwards and loves them nonetheless. In terms of dating, being a drag queen hasn’t really been an issue. If any of my dates aren’t comfortable with me being a drag queen, then I simply move on. It’s not my problem; I’m all good, hun!

Being a drag queen in Greece is difficult; I’m not going to lie. But I do try my best and trust the process. It takes patience, determination and a lot of hard work. When I first started, I used to go out dressed in drag a lot. Now, not so much anymore. Staring has a lot do to with that. While I haven’t encountered terrible behaviours, it does depend on the area you’re in Athens; you could either get compliments or mocking. I have definitely experienced the latter, where I was bullied at a movie set for being a drag queen. We were doing a photo shoot on the street in Athens, and there was this middle- aged woman who kept taking pictures of us. Then she finally came over and asked me, “what are you?” Smiling, I replied that I was a drag queen, which followed by her insisting that I was a man and all that.

On the grand scheme, Greece has taken steps forward in terms of LGTBQIA+ and accepting drag, but that doesn’t mean we have reached the ideal level of respecting each other’s freedom. Personally, I’m optimistic, and I believe that slowly but surely, we’ll get there.

My first performance was very emotional and was probably the only time I felt highly stressed to perform. It was a fundraising show for Zak Kostopoulos’ trial, a Greek LGTBQIA+ activist who had been brutally beaten to death. It was the experience that convinced me drag was what I wanted to do. On stage is where I feel most confident because I know I’m going to impress. I recognise that I naturally have something that will entertain the audience; they won’t be able to take their eyes off me! Unlike other drag queens that find it disrespectful, I love it when other people join me on stage; it’s beautiful. I want the audience to have fun; that’s the goal.

@_nicolenasty_, Athens 2019

Like most performers, I’ve also had my fair share of embarrassing experiences on stage. One that comes to mind right now is when I tried to do a wig reveal, snapping my wig on stage and uncovering the one I have underneath. It didn’t go as planned, and I accidentally ended up taking off both of them. Oh well, that didn’t stop me. I don’t let these mishappenings get to me. Instead, I went to a mirror and humorously stuck one of the wigs back on my head. I continued the show, like a real queen, as if nothing out of the ordinary had happened. The splits I proceeded to do made everybody forget the incident.

The pandemic has impacted me in terms of livelihood, as I am financially dependent on my drag performances. However, I’ve remained busy despite the lockdown, occupying myself with live streams and drag makeovers on social media. I’ve also expanded my YouTube channel by collaborating with other drag queens, and it’s been fun; it keeps my creative juices flowing. Drag is an integral part of Nikolas; it’s his creativity, it’s the claim to his rights, and oh my God, it’s so much fun!”

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Drag, resistance & suspicious parents

There are over 200 drag queens on our screens – but why are only 1.2% of them south Asian?

Amidst the front room reigned by infectious energy and ubiquitous echoes of laughter, a bowl of strawberries is passed around the sofa. Gradually, as the lights slowly start to dim, so does the bowl of fruit’s speed – something more exciting is brewing now. The clock has struck 7 pm, and for Brighton University’s students, it means only one thing: it’s time for RuPaul.

Amongst the crowd sits the lean figure of Adam, applying contour with one hand while getting ready to tweet with the other. In his world, this is escapism, while in his parents’, a nightmare.

As Adam leans over the sofa with interest and his face reflecting the applied Fenty beauty, his friend Rosie murmurs to him, “You’ll be there one day!” “Hmmm”, he murmurs back with doubt; “The chances of that are slim.”

Adam is another south Asian who is faced with the difficulty of taking that next step to the stage. Out of 67 top half performing queens on the show, the number of Asian queens stands at a subtle 5. 

For a statistic that’s been swept under the carpet, it’s pretty damning. Receiving plaudits for its showbiz factor that has the power of getting anyone on their feet, drag is definitely on a monumental rise. Amidst all of this success, however, the lack of inclusion of south Asians is rarely discussed. Does success in this industry really only entail talent and chance? Or is there a more profound, unrevealed secret behind the scenes? 

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 “My family disowned me,” is what Adam reveals when he’s asked about his family’s reaction to his drag dream. “Being gay is a huge no-no in an Asian household anyhow, but to impersonate a woman as a man… that’s a death wish. It was like a double whammy for them that they couldn’t stomach. But I was happy, and that’s all that mattered. I just left my home and never looked back.”

When Adam came out to his family in 2019, they utterly rejected it. Due to the strong religious and cultural beliefs, this is no surprise that south Asian communities are vehemently opposed to homosexuality. Yet, Adam says it was really his passion for drag that sent his relationships to an all-time low. “Growing up in an Asian household, you’re never taught about expression. We have an abundance of colourful dresses in our culture made for women, and subconsciously, I think that that’s where my love for dressing up as a woman started. What was made for women was made for me” Adam explains. “A big part of the drag community is gay, and sometimes when I try to go to castings, they think my background will hinder any success, which honestly, is quite upsetting. That negative stigma around drag and queerness in the Asian community ultimately plays a significant role compared to my white counterparts.” 

Although it’s been two years since Adam has distanced himself from his family, it’s still apparent that agencies are marginalising him for stereotypes beyond his control. While his friend Billy starred in many university drag competitions, Adam has tried countless theatre projects and castings, all to no avail. Perhaps a lack of inspiration and pioneers, Adam believes, may be another reason why south Asian people feel distant to drag. 

“Look at most of the people who star in these shows; they all talk about being inspired by fellow countrymen or the community they were raised in. The fact that I can’t name any influential Indian drag queens from the top of my head makes you think. Am I made for this industry, and will I ever be accepted? It sure does play on your mind.” Adam recalls how he met the first aspiring Pakistani drag performer at a casting show. “We were talking about how we could be that change in society. When the agents asked us who inspired us to do drag, everyone credited western performers. It was then that that fire for us to be that change was ignited. We almost felt embarrassed for our reason for doing drag; it was sheer means of expression. While others did it because they were inspired by the industry, we simply didn’t have anyone in the industry. Only ourselves.” 

Adam’s frustrations reveal a significant conundrum in the entertainment field – a tremendously westernised standard that needs to be acknowledged. As long as you’re from a conventional white background, the chances of success are much higher. Research from PRIDE, found that “Only six black queens even crossed the average marker of 569k followers.” So much for praising drag for its inclusivity! In fact, in RuPaul’s 12-year history, “there have only ever been two queens of South Asian descent or heritage.” That is two out of 166, and 1.2%, which is simply unacceptable and one of the many reasons aspiring south Asians don’t believe drag is in their cards. Is there a way that the drag community, as a whole, could bring this exclusion to an end and inspire the next generation of south Asian performers instead? Given there’s barely any south Asian drag acts, exposure must come from within. 

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As the show neared its end, Adam introduces Stephanie, his 23-year-old agent and a Brighton University student union member. Being a member comes with significant responsibilities. Even she has tried her utmost to break down barriers for ethnic minorities to succeed in drag. Firmly believing that the field’s moguls could do more to help ethnic minorities, she mentions that certain days are made to celebrate diversity within drag.

“It’s all about exposure in this field. The interest in drag is evolving, and since it’s not as established as other performatives, exposure truly is key. Other performatives have certain days to celebrate diversity, and drag can do more. South Asians already feel ostracised by their families; the last thing they need is to feel something akin to that within the industry. Look at Bollywood, it’s a huge south Asian franchise that has reached unprecedented success levels due to its togetherness. Drag culture should follow suit. Instagram and TikTok are optimal platforms for drag performers to showcase themselves. It would be great if the industry could promote some of these pages, not for sympathy, but for the brilliant talent that goes unnoticed.” 

Social media is beneficial in helping gain exposure because it can help mellow that stigma and resistance certain groups feel towards drag. The more our feeds subject us to it, the more normalised it’ll become. Implementing a normalisation of drag in certain demographics is the first crucial step. And while this is important, Stephanie still highlights that the weight that parental support carries in south Asian communities isn’t to be underestimated. 

“If only Adam’s parents could see how talented he is, I think it would help them revaluate their stance on drag. Asian parents are so fixated on maintaining a good image and what extended family has to say that they forget to put a child’s interest at heart. It’s either education or nothing. Drag is an education, and it’s a way of life. Imagine how many south Asian performers worldwide are destined for the stage but are put off because of shaming their families’ reputation. It’s disheartening.”

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While in mid-conversation, Adam bolts in with a vibrant saree, a traditional Asian dress. As he starts strutting down the hall of his university accommodation, effortlessly, like a faithful regular at Paris fashion week, Stephanie chuckles and says, “he’s like this all the time.”

“I’ve been his agent for a while, and he’s a real live wire. It’s about making him realise how good he is. I can only do that with his family’s support. He is destined for stardom.”

This situation is all too common – how many south Asians are victims of the industry and their family’s lack of belief? This constant battle of miscommunication ultimately leads to massive resistance from all parties involved.

As we can see, a significant impetus lies in family beliefs. Therefore, gaining some insight from a south Asian mother seems relevant. Given this subject’s local level of taboo, you can class this as a moment in history.

Tania is a gay Indian and mother to a son who recently received death threats when posts of him in a dress circulated the web. She confirms that being born into a south Asian family affects a drag queen’s ability to come out and affirm themself. She also adheres to the fact that authoritative figures in the industry are playing on this insecurity, and that to their benefit. “The family is not the main issue”, she says. “Our countries are depicted as ones of a third world that have nor morals or freedom. It’s these companies’ way of shifting the blame, and it’s an easy way out. They don’t realise that they’re the catalyst for change, and for change to happen, they need to do more. As parents, we are just pictured as the bad guys. And while I agree that the old generation way of parenting is strict, it’s outdated. It’s a new generation now.”

Tania refutes any claims of subconscious racism, instead suggesting a lack of education amongst the involved parties. “If we all work together, we can push this idea of resistance to one side. I would love and support my son if he chose to do drag. It would be a match made in heaven!” 

If there ever was a time to break stigma and resistance for south Asians in drag, that time is now. Family values have a considerable part to play indeed. Yet, it’s up to the industry and the companies to bridge this massive gap. With the significant consumption and use of social media, the idea of ‘resistance’ can be eradicated. Drag should be a culture that is celebrated regardless of colour, sex or gender. Instead of pointing fingers at each other for all of eternity, we should communicate and educate. With Gen Z and Millennials on the rise to becoming parents, we can no longer blame families. We are being raised in a modern era where everyone is open to acceptance. Perhaps with south Asian queens such as Priyanka taking plaudits on RuPaul’s drag race, could we finally see an influx of south Asian queens?

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Violetta J’adore: “Drag was a revelation for me that I stumbled upon by pure accident. Now I can’t live without it.”

Violetta J’adore by Grand Gareth for GiGi Magazine, 2021

An insightful glimpse into the life of a 24-year-old drag queen from Cyprus. Hear her inspiring story; how drag changed her life and the struggles of being a gay person in Balkan countries. Meet English teacher on paper, and drag queen at heart, Violetta J’adore. 

“My husband and I always joke around that I have three personalities. My first name is Vassilis, and my middle name is Theodoros. Vassilis is a shy, depressed little kid from Cyprus. Then we have Violetta, the very social, expressive, and crazy, over the top drag queen. Theodoros is placed right in the middle of Vassilis and Violetta, trying to keep a balance. Violetta is passionate, glamorous, versatile and fucking lives to perform. 

Drag was a revelation for me that I stumbled upon by pure accident. Before drag, my life was pretty miserable, and that’s not an understatement. I wasn’t the same person by any stretch of imagination; I was shy, antisocial, an introvert really. Thanks to drag, I became more expressive. I was finally able to express myself through performing, which incorporates everything that I love: acting, dancing and, of course, glam. 

I was first introduced to drag culture in my 20s when I went to Spain for an Erasmus grant in 2017. I was studying Psychology at Universidad Europea de Madrid. I also worked at a club in a gay area of Madrid called Chueca, and there was this custom to pass around flyers dressed in drag to promote the venue. Because the club didn’t have any drag queens to do this job, they asked me if I could do it, and I thought, “why not?” Soon after, I got my first gig as a drag queen in that club. I then decided, “okay, this is a thing now; I’ve got to do it!” Now, almost four years later, I have performed in six different countries, and I can’t imagine my life without drag. 

Meanwhile, I’m an English literature teacher doing my PhD at the University of Portsmouth. People used to tell me that drag will ruin my career as an English teacher. That it would destroy my reputation, that everything stays online and that I needed to look out for my future. To be honest, I used to worry about that too, until my last job in Brighton as a language school teacher. My boss literally helped me pick out my heels for one of my shows, which he then even attended and watched. 

I currently live in Brighton, and I walk around in my 7-inch heels, fully drag-dressed, confident, and only get compliments. When I lived in Athens after my Erasmus grant finished in 2018, I would ride the underground in drag make-up and feel scared. I would cover myself with a hoodie, looking down so that nobody stared at me. In my homeland, Cyprus, the situation is even worse when it comes to queer; I wouldn’t feel safe at all walking around in drag there. At the age of 16, I got beaten to the ground, while all I did was walk out of a gay club in Limassol with my friends. I remember my friends ran away, but I stayed calm. I was asked, “are you a man?” I replied, “yes,” and I got fucking beaten up. I became scared, but every fight against homophobia is worth it. I’ll never deny or alter myself to please other people. 

My friends have been very supportive of me, and I love them to bits for that. In my family, only two people know that I’m a drag queen: my cousin and my mother. I’d say that Cyprus is a very closed-minded community. They aren’t up to speed with what’s happening in the rest of the world. For example, my mother had a misguided opinion on drag; she thought it was similar to stripping. Now, she’s gradually trying to understand. Throughout the years, I’ve learned that not everyone in your life has to like what you do; they just have to accept it and not comment. It’s about you, as long as you’re happy with yourself and your life. People either have to get on board, or they have to get out of your life, duh! 

Violetta J’adore performing in Brighton, 2019

When I get on stage and perform in drag, the adoration and rush I get from the audience are literally mind-blowing. I’m very detailed when it comes to my performances, from the make-up and the outfit to the song and the concept. During quarantine, I’ve even learned to make my own wigs out of natural hair. Drag to me is creativity, it’s expression, and it’s love. I take my performances very seriously, and I still get anxious before getting on stage. 

I wouldn’t be happy if I had to let go of Violetta. As a teenager, I dealt with many mental issues, and it was tough for me to express myself as a gay bipolar person. When Violetta came into my life, I realised that I could communicate my feelings and thoughts by performing through her. At first, I only saw Violetta as a persona, an alter-ego of mine that I could channel whenever I pleased. But four years down the road, she’s now a part of me, something that I need in my life. 

Since lockdown, I’ve been practising drag on social media, though I do count on going back to live performances in May. I’ve actually already planned out my next steps. I’m the event manager of the “Funny Boyz” event at “Le Village” in Brighton. The “Funny Boyz” is a franchise of drag cabaret events across Europe, part of the EuroDrag and EuroStars international televised competition. I’m thrilled to be working with them; you can make reservations already, and I promise you, you’ll have the time of your life! Nobody does it like drag queens, and that’s a fact! 

Covid has almost killed drag in a way. We are getting ignored by the government rules; it’s like we don’t exist. Until October, I was fully booked to perform in clubs and pubs, and then, in just one day, everything got cancelled. I was counting on those shows; they are my livelihood. Many people quit drag because it doesn’t pay during a pandemic, and many venues have shut down. While the government can pay those, who work in hospitality, (as they should), they forget about the performers. Performers have been deeply affected during these difficult times too. 

I won’t give up, though. I have too many looks that I need to show people. I aspire to be the best I can, and no pandemic will stop me. That’s the thing I love most about Violetta; she keeps me on my toes; there’s excitement every single day. As the years go by, Vassilis is catching up to Violetta. I don’t see a peak in my drag journey; I just want to keep learning new things every day. Things about myself, about Violetta, and the world. But like I wouldn’t say no to a Vogue cover.”